Headship - another distracted hunt for causes ?

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE and what we can do about it    ABCTV July 2017

I never like arguments that use exceptions to try to break the rule - this is the sort of time wasting sub science nonsense we often get from the naysayers and cynics all around us and that  the ABC specialize in . In these matters they often talk science but don't do science 

While I am all for reviews of what causes DV I am against much hunting down in exceptional causes . So I am cynical of what single Julia Baird  is doing here- was her dad in charge of the house for example?  Lets be practical and political( how the disease affects MOST people)  here too

I think most people and reasonably successful  families ( I can't claim perfection ) support overall the idea of headship in families ( don't be too shocked )

Time for a reassessment people . A single woman running a simple old line against headship that hasn't provided a working alternative .Cummon tell me!
 Most thinking Muslim women have no problem with headship. Western Women are converting to be under headship. Reality therapy required? Real causes analysis required .

While you lovely strong women are rightly afraid of the male pulling this trick  when it suits him , do you want the little boy to go absent on you ? Is there a better way to keep order in the house ? ( I think its possible that headship arguments can and have gone to our XY heads  so I don't claim its perfect - just the most reasonable and workable arrangement on the surface.)

It's not a perfect choice,  but is it the better of the options available?  Would you XX's prefer if  Paul said "husbands obey your wives"  or alternatively said "you must in submission to each other" ( the big picture command that's clearly dominant in Paul's writings about marriage ) decide each dispute on its merits. Really ? 

W e must ,unlike what Julia has done by focusing on exceptions,   remember Paul himself was dealing with exceptions and difficulties when he reminded them of the bottom line . We must see every problem in its context and stop trying to solve every one by rule alone  -DV is very widespread and one main  key driver to its growth is IMO poor anger management.  see other links .

Context for the command : These were strong wonderful women who had come to see that they had unmet leadership ambitions in their relationships with men and their world. Paul says to my mind . The rule is not perfect but it works to have one who thinks and appears to be in charge . Use your brains ( you now know this )  in relationships.  Its not all about brute power ( Romans 12) Use your renewed minds to get things done.

Think more broadly for your own safety . With this shallow One cause and One effect logic about one correlation there is a risk you will ignore other good reasons for the rule .

Take the critical questions of order and objectivity  Take the way we rune
meetings . We appoint a head . by having a head doesn't neccesarily mean he /she rules.
For your own safety dont play pedant here .

Why would not good order try to not bring some objectivity from outside when it on his mind and not yours ?( or vice versa you tell him cause " he thinks he;s responsible"

the rule context is about order and getting somewhere more  easily before the day ends as  neither party are perfect in understanding or appreciation. Two minds are better than one and this is proven way to encourage respect and efficiency in listening and decisionmaking . 

If you have to have a choice ( I think this is critical) is it better in your experience if the boy thinks he is in charge?

Is he better present and heard than absent because in  a fair fight (eg  when their are no children) we males all know who usually wins.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE and what we can do about itI too am concerned about the growing incidence of domestic violence in families but this chasing after exceptions to find causes is going to distracting and unproductive . The evidence that church teaching is not helping is against the evidence.At least when they go to church and hear peoples situation is not so easily " covered up" ( that i unconvincing suggestion from left field) When did you last seek to intervene in someones elses domestic tensions? Maybe you talked about them but just because you are leader does it mean you " covered the issues up".


A better and more concise summary of the context of male abuse of the privelege was given here .https://www.facebook.com/NewsWeekly.NCC/

There is obviously a lot more to talk about  about the paradoxes in marriage and familiy , Drivers and deliberations  Feedback welcome 


As a highly reactionary cynical and sub scientific family the ABC keep making basic context mistakes when seeking to promote change as the source of all that is good . ( note most thinking Muslim women have no problem with headship  so is the ABC's sense of  consensus really highlighting increasing confusion in their ranks about what works .Maybe the reactionaries have thrown something good out with the bathwater 
While we are a long way from convincing the fearful women in our community who have grown up with ABC fear that headship can be good . Julia Baird's long winded wanderings on when it can be bad highlight how much lack of focus on real problems the ABC has.  

Towards a more realistic view of politics- Go girls

Annabelle Crabbe's view of politicians comes as close as any I know to one of realism ."They are mad"  she rightly says to Julia in their most welcome frame of "home" visits.
If we too are not to go mad , we need some relief from their  madness - but how , when most of the ABC take them so seriously ?  
I can see both of them running the old "coming out show" - feisty is good if it brings out better , feisty is at least a way of upsetting the PC ,  get beyond the crap. To be practical NOT political 

Q and A is so symbolic of this PC stupidity - why would  we get answers from polys ?
The reality is that as our forefathers knew, nothing is as it seems on the surface. If you are not to drown in the shit ,you need a way to stay on top of it,  To know where to find a good story - and avoid  the drowning cynicism of those who don't sort out the evil elements. The faith that the left or the right really know what they are doing is a false faith !
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 Its taken a while for ABC to realize that Australian story, Back roads  One 2 one and these Home visit frames should have been used for years to give viewers  a solid view away from the pathetic simplicity of the political world .
The country is a different culture and little has been done to break through and understand it - Does anyone really want to know that there are people out there who are happy living with less and living with the disciplines of real risk management.
The same is true of the important subcultures of church, business, health and real planning and environment care. The very real drama and resolution that's out there has been largely ignored.

If ABC employed more people who were actually interested in people ( like those 2) the deeper drama of conflicts in the above area we would have much more that is worthwatching  on TV
The ABC could have had by now the bones for good drama based on real contests ; a much needed real life view that would have outclassed and out sold the equally out of touch  Crawford house productions .
 Great that the ABC has uncovered a few like M&S , Utopia , The Slap , Frontline ,

Go Girls

You would think the men on Q&A last night were on drugs. Soft drugs ?Is it  only when men are weak that women have to take over ?? The women on the show were running around the  men with intellectual rigor and passion to inspire even the most tardy of male church members.
Unbelievably the program was supposed to be about strong men (Trump),
Sadly  it was Premier Andrews and his young mate from the USA who tiresomely trotted out the very bland repeats of political correctness that have so annoyed the doing people of the US . Yes we will get more Trumps here because we have such dumb soft and PC leaders here . Emperors wearing more taxes ( and court martials for deniers) as clothes!

The very unworthy spokesman for the ultimate salvation of the earth could not even say Kirabati let alone recognise it as a non-starter in his very careless and sus list of terrors from not closing down all a carbon use and putting climate deniers in jail .
If arrogant progressives ( who try to tell US scientists what’s true!) want more credibility they better listen to scientists,  not try and quote the king hit makers in the collection that they choose ( but strangely don’t appear on their stage)
The debate was supposed to be about whether we could get Trump type characters here .
Well One thing is certain ---from tonight’s entertainment package -- we have the losing side in those two men standing before us . Trump is not admired for much, but at least he is no puppet!

The sentimentalist Andrews talks about evil and wicked without having any idea of how to deal with such things. He is not even aware that his government in their wisdom are still desperately  trying to play God and parent with the people , when few of his ministers would be trusted with anyone’s children.
Such is that pacts reactive incompetence that,  in their never ending chase to stop one car from killing people , they manage to allow another to kill more. ( Streets of Melbourne a few weeks ago)

They have excelled themselves in creating emergency management empires like their own . Wisdom about prevention, fires , flood  landslides and other disasters they do not have and have not had time for . As always,  the ultimate reactionaries .
Andrews  worry brigade,  in their attempts to play God have made water and forced the public to pay for their dumb dreams of a renewable led solar pact .  In failing to plan for base load like SA Daniel is complicit in forcing the closure of one of Victories biggest export income sources and will be remembered for nothing but fine words and playing puppet to others
And where have the eager ABC reporters been when all these scoops were emerging ? Its no wonder the audience get no/half truth while Tony moves on anyone who might hijack the PC – not truth but popularity is the dream of many leading in that church.
Who in those hallowed halls has been watching while sound and well trained professionals leave the public service for the better paying but  less responsible world of the drip feed .

And what will redeem the ABC form being totally complicit in letting the sentimentalists and worry warriors take over in Victoria and Australia ? so much for a clever country ABC

Well a return to reporting would help and hearing those two women rebut the shallow sentimental stuff from the men was just enough to make any hardy anti-feminist cheer. Go girls!